Updated: Jul 5, 2022
Money is a topic that everyone wants to know more about, and more specifically, "How to get it!" What beliefs around money will get us more of it?
We all have different money mindsets according to the generation in which we grew up. People growing up in times when there was plenty, when the stock markets were endlessly growing, more than likely will have the mindset that investing is amazing, while people growing up in times when the stock market has crashed, may be a little more cautious when it comes to investing.
A child who has a father that works physically hard for money is more likely to have the mind set of, "you have to work hard to make a living." And a child who has the mindset of, "money is easy to come by", perhaps had wealthy parents.
I grew up in a home with eleven kids. My mother was a saint and my father had to work sun up to sun down just to get us by. After the recession in the 80's my father lost his business, had huge amounts of debt, and found himself not only working the jobs but also painting the doctors house and repaving peoples homes that he owed money to. I was definitely engrained with, "You have to work hard to make a living." My dad told me the stories, he wanted me to be like him. My older sister was big into education though, and since she basically helped raise me, I found myself leaning towards the way she saw things.
Education plays a role in being able to obtain money. But not everyone sees that relationship the same way. An Aesop fable of the fox and the grapes, describes how a fox one day finds a patch of juicy, beautiful looking grapes, that are just outside of his reach. He jumps and jumps, and takes a running jump to get the grapes, but alas he is not able to get the grapes, they are just out of reach. So the fox walks away in disgust, murmuring, "they're probably sour grapes anyways."
Then comes the old adage, "money cannot buy happiness", however, with money you can choose what to do with your time, and having control over your time is an indicator of happiness. So, if you choose a job that you love, then you won't need the money to be happy, because you are controlling what you get to do with your time. But then that leaves money out of the scenario, and unfortunately we all need money. However, if you make enough money doing what you love, then you have the best of both worlds, you can have your cake and eat it too.
Now some of these thoughts are cliché, we've heard them time and time again, but why do we not act upon these things? It's as if there was a part of us that has been trained to act a certain way (go to school, get a job, pay taxes, endure to the end of your life), and this part of us keeps us from venturing out into the unknown.
What if that fox would have found a rock to stand upon or some other object that would have allowed him to reach those grapes? What if you spent some extra time working an extra job, so you could get an education doing something you love? You might just be able to reach those grapes that you are reaching for in your life. And yet this may still be something that you already know. So, the question arises again, why have you not already done this? What is holding you back?
The part of us that holds us back is our unconscious mind, and that unconscious mind controls our emotions, and our emotions control our behaviors. So, through hypnotherapy we can locate those emotions, and those decisions that we've made in the past, and we can help ourselves to make new decisions, so that instead of feeling like those grapes are impossible to get to, we feel the motivation to go find a rock. Instead of pushing away the work that would get us one step closer to where we want to be, we invite that work into our lives, and we do it with gratitude, knowing that we're getting closer to the goals that we desire to achieve. Hypnotherapy is a tool that can help us get to where we want to be. It may not be the magic button that makes work disappear, but it may be the magic button that makes the procrastination and emotional drudgery disappear, and that will get us to where we want to go.
Last thought: what is the right mindset to have around money, if you are looking to have more of it? My view is that of a religious one. There is a scripture in my religion that states, "There is a law, irrevocably decreed in heaven before the foundations of this world, upon which all blessings are predicated- 21 And when we obtain any blessing from God, it is by obedience to that law upon which it is predicated." (Doctrine and Covenants 130, 20-21). So, What are the laws that proceed the blessings of great riches? When we discover that, then we can move forward into a life of self-worth and abundance. When we discover what is holding us back, and discover what we need to be doing to receive the blessings, then we will fly through the work to get to the grapes.
I received my certificate from Certified Hypnotherapy Training School in 2019 while working two jobs. I quit one job once I had my certificate as a certified clinical hypnotherapist. Shortly thereafter I cut ties with my other job and did hypnotherapy full time. It was covid, times got tough, but we stuck with it, and found joy in doing hypnotherapy even when we weren't getting paid for it. I gave away hundreds of sessions during covid, and somehow we managed to get by. I still do hypnotherapy full time, and I make a decent amount of money doing so. I have my cake, I am doing what I love, and I am eating slices of it each day, I get to control my time, and I have never been happier. It has been a difficult road to take, and I am not fully where I want to be yet, but happiness is not a distant thing, it stays close.
So having money, even though not directly tied to happiness, does have an affect of bringing happiness, if we are doing what we love.
Chris Parker CHT
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